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Q: So, about a week ago, I started dating this girl I’ve been liking for a while. She likes me back, and we are happily dating, but she’s been hiding it from her family. I understand the fear of coming out — I and many of my friends have gone through it. And I understand her reluctance to tell her family, as she’s in a religious one … However, I really like her and want to be open about my relationship. Another friend of mine said to put it on pause until she comes out, but I’m afraid of how long that’ll be.
— Come Out, Girlfriend
I was at Big Bar enjoying a brief burst of springtime weather recently with one of my faves, Big Bar’s manager, Drew Gillum. He introduced me to his bartender, who we will call A who immediately laid a question on me:
How do I convince my boyfriend that I’m not trying to cheat while I bartend?
Before leaving the Derby City for a city by the sea, I’d only been to the Derby once, while I was an undergrad in college, and that was to work it. I was an elevator girl on the old Millionaire’s Row.
“I’ve never had this many nudes in my phone,” Tamika Dozier said, as she flicked through photos that women and non-binary folks have sent her since she began #LYON — Leak Your Own Nudes — four months ago.
Leading up to a recent #LYON art exhibit Dozier organized, I chatted with her and others about their experiences around the #LYON movement.
Dan, as it turns out, is really more like Dan Cuddly Bear than Savage. I knew who he was before I started writing this column, but when I landed the gig, I sat down and read tons of his columns in The Stranger. I’d also read “Dear Prudence” and a lot of “Dear Sugar” to prep.
You know what happens when you tweet something about trying to steal Dan Savage’s crown as the internet’s most-regaled dating advice guru?
He invites you on his show.
C’mon. If anyone can pull off a wedding in three months, it’s you Boo. You’ve already done the hard part. You found someone worth marrying — Dear, Future Husband, Where Are You?! — and you had a super adorable baby with that someone. He’s a good father. He’s isn’t an asshole. He has a job he’s been at forevs. You have a job you’ve been at forevs. You two are stable as a table. You’re legit checking off all the boxes society measures us against. On top of all that, you shouldn’t feel like you have to live up to some nonsense wedding standard to have the “perfect wedding.”
Q: Is there a way to tell a woman that you are not ready for a long-term relationship without her suspecting you of being immature and/or promiscuous?
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Remember last month when I wrote about what a shit age 23 is? Well, 29 — more specifically 29 ½ — is the greatest age I’ve experienced so far. Not because it was a particularly good year, but because, at that age, all the fears and worries I had about turning 30 simply disappeared. At that age, I’d suddenly had enough years behind me to feel less anxious about the years ahead of me. I didn’t have all the answers, but I felt more confident that I knew how to find them. One of the things that I suddenly innately knew was that, when it comes to being single, sometimes all you can do is wait.